Making a Wellness Pact with Your Partner

3 years ago
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Making a Wellness Pact Makes a Difference

While my website is devoted to gluten-free, allergen-free living, it is also devoted to my signature “Smart Nutrition Backed by Science”.

To me, that means sharing general nutrition and wellness information in addition to the celiac-specific info I provide here. After all, we are not defined by our celiac (or any other) disease, but we can define (or redefine) our health by how we care for our bodies, inside and out.

I’ve shared tid-bits here and there about how I literally transformed my health just by changing the foods I eat. It is possible and it is relatively simple to do.

But you and I know there’s more to health than only the foods we eat.

Our dynamic bodies can change inside and we may never know. Sometimes, that causes no problems at all, but other times, what we can’t see could hurt us and put our good health in jeopardy.

A well-rounded approach to wellness can go a long way in keeping the body and mind healthy and in tip-top shape.

Part of being well-rounded includes our regular well checks.

Now, let me just tell you I loathe going to the gyno. I always have. It’s not even that I am so modest or that I am ashamed of how I look. I’m not really either of those things.

I just don’t like sitting in a weird front-opening gown with a paper sheet on my lap…waiting. And waiting. And WAITING in a cold room with odd-looking gadgets.

I’m always tempted to Instagram myself in stirrups (you know, just the feet part) as some sort of motivation for others who dread the annual (which to me means every 4 years) checkup, too. But I don’t Instagram that image (you’re welcome).

And about that every 4 years, did you know the latest research indicates every 3 years is just fine if you have no family history, you are in a monogamous relationship and there aren’t any red flags or complications?

Awesome news! I’m covered on all those counts, so when I recently went in for my “Well Woman Check” (gag at that name), I was thrilled to hear this.

Of course I was immensely proud of myself for even being there.

The nurse gave me a “big-bleepin’-deal, crazy lady” look when I told her how I thought I was such a rock star just for showing up. Oh, well.

The truth is, I did feel pretty amazing, and I didn’t even dread this visit. First. Time. Ever.

There’s a reason for that, too, and it’s important enough to share with you (assuming you’re like me and you dread every single well woman anything).

Dreamy and I made a Wellness Pact earlier this year.

What the heck is that? I know, we are so strange.

{a pact is a formal agreement between individuals or parties}

Basically, we sat down and agreed we would not only be partners in the day-to-day things, but also in health. We agreed to hold one another accountable when it comes to those dreaded exams and to support and praise one another accordingly. Yes, indeed, we did have this conversation.

It’s extremely important to me that I live up to the standard I promote for my family at home, and for you, my Gluten Free Gigi family. Living a lifestyle that supports optimal health is top priority for me and I don’t half-a$$ anything.

So, it was also time for Dreamy to have his annual “well man check” (why do I giggle at that?) as well as his very first ever colonoscopy (and at that?), which I had a marvelous time teasing him about, in a fun-loving way, of course.

So, we made this Wellness Pact and, by golly, we stuck to it. I’m so proud of us!

The best part is that because we did this, because we were being such a wellness power couple (haha) I totally did NOT dread my checkup. In fact, I took such pride in going, not just for myself, but for my partner, too, that I was eager to go.

I even scheduled my first-ever mammogram.

Dreamy says he felt the same way about his checkup (and even his colonoscopy).

Isn’t it interesting what a positive outlook and positive support can do?

Why am I Telling You This?

I wanted to share how I feel and tell you about the pact Dreamy and I made for a few reasons:

1. You’re not the only one who doesn’t like going for your checkup. Even those of us who guide others on healthy living dread getting undressed in front of strangers and being poked and prodded.

2. Even if you’re not making a Wellness Pact with your partner, I want you to know you have a support system right here, with me and with all the other Gluten Free Gigi family members. If you have questions or fears or just need to vent about a health issue, it is a-OK and this is a great place to ask or share. It’s not talking about our health that can get us into trouble.

3. I hope you’re inspired to follow suit and create a special health agreement with your partner, friend, or even your kids! It really makes such a difference in how we think of things when we put ourselves in the driver’s seat and take charge.

Tips on Creating Your Own Wellness Pact with Someone You Love

1. Sit down and have a serious discussion about where you both are in terms of your current health and share your goals for your ideal health situation.

Knowing where you are now, and where you’d like to be, can help you develop a clear picture of exactly what needs to be done in terms of lifestyle adjustments.

And remember, aim for the stars! Regardless of where you are, there are always actions you can take to improve your health situation. Never give up on YOU!

2. Come up with concrete ideas on how to get from where you are now to your desired health goals. Brainstorm ideas and write them down, no matter how far-fetched they may seem.

Consider what you can do together and consider the small changes you can make in your daily life together that will have a positive impact on your health.

3. Determine which exams or tests you need based on age, current health, family risk and any other factors that you feel are significant. A chat with your health care provider is great for this, and most will offer a consultation to create a wellness plan to follow. Just ask!

4. Once you and your partner determine which exams and tests you’ll have done, and any changes you are going to implement in your daily life, be sure to offer encouragement and support, and by all means, share your fears!

It is normal to have those feelings. Fear comes from not knowing. Work together with your partner to get educated on those topics that make you feel fearful. Knowledge is power!

5. Follow through. The most important part of your wellness pact is following through with what you agreed to do. Like Dreamy’s colonoscopy and my well woman check and mammogram, get those tests done and then applaud your partner for following through and caring for themselves as much as you care for them.

6. Celebrate your health! Regardless of where you are, there is always something to celebrate. Find it and be grateful.

I hope this info inspires you and makes a positive difference in your wellness!

Have you created a wellness pact with anyone? Would you?

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