Living in a World of Perky Breasts

8 years ago

I tell myself I love my breasts.  I tell myself they look amazing for having nursed three children.  I tell myself, "For 38 years old, they look great. You're lucky they aren't totally facing south."  But I still don't quite believe it.

Numerous of my girlfriends have had breast jobs post-childbirth.  Lifts and /or augmentations.  They've proudly lifted their shirts and showed me, their happiness plain to see.  And I'm happy for them.  I WANT them to feel fabulous about how they look and who they are.  If a lift or tuck elevates their self-image, then all the power to them.

But now I'm surrounded by so many 'perfect' breasts, I wonder about my own.  Sure, I can conceal the fact they're lower and not as full with a good push-up bra.  Sure, I still have cleavage and I like the size of my nipples. 

But I'm also recently divorced.  I'm back out on the dating scene and exposing this 38-year-old, post-childbirth body to new lovers.  Hence, I wonder...  I doubt....  And in the throws of passion, I'm happier if my lacy bra doesn't come off; for do the men care if they dangle, swing or remain motionless?  Or are they just happy to be having sex at all?  *grin.

Either way, I've no intention of getting a breast job.  I'm going to live with what I have because I don't think my breasts are 'bad enough' - for now anyways.  They may not be "perfect," but they're real.  And if I keep repeating my mantras long enough, perhaps one day I'll believe that all my pregnancy war wounds -  the lower breats, the C-section scar, the hamburger belly - are not markings of shame, but badges of honor.  

This is an article written by one of the incredible members of the SheKnows Community. The SheKnows editorial team has not edited, vetted or endorsed the content of this post. Want to join our amazing community and share your own story? Sign up here.

More from health

by Sara Lindberg M. Ed
| in 3 hours
by Ashley Jankowski
| 5 days ago
by Elizabeth Yuko
| 6 days ago
by Maryann Jacobsen, MS, RD
| 7 days ago