I'm Sexy and I Know It

4 years ago

There is so much information about what to expect when you are having a baby and when you plan a wedding, but 5 years ago I had a hard time finding the real deal information about what to expect when I turned 40. 

Girlfriend, let me tell you some of the things that I have learned. First and foremost, hot flashes are real!!! I don't get them often but on the occasions that I have them it's as if  my whole body is caught in a perpetual heatwave. Other times it's as if someone has taken my feet and set fire under them. What I had called, "glistening" in my 20s and 30s is now defined as full blown sweat. I immediately want to scream, "Lawd Jesus, it's a fire." I want to strip. Run through a cold, cold, shower of water then sit in front of a great big, huge ass fan. And, the very last thing I want anyone to do is touch me. Finally, the fire disappears just as quickly as it came.

When I was younger, I had a beautiful thick head of hair. It was awesome. I could do pretty much anything to it...cut it, dye it, fry it (straightening combs and curling irons), and it always grew back the same as before. Now, my hair texture has changed drastically. It's  still beautiful but it is softer, very fine, and in it's natural state it's curly. And since we are on the subject of hair...yes, I now have strands of gray that I wrestle with. No one told me that gray hair was unruly.  But the biggest discovery about gray hair was learning during an intimate moment that gray hair grows, shall we just say...everywhere. The other surprise about hair is that it starts to grow in places that you never noticed before like your chin. Yes, getting older needs a guide book for sure!

And, lastly, I must be honest with you about the on-going fight with my waistline.  I used to love the way my hips swayed under my teeny little waistline as I walked. I never had to work to maintain my cute little figure. I was "naturally" thin so I had nothing to worry about. Then it happened. Slowly the scale would creep up and I would exercise and diet and it was all taken care of. I lost the weight. Now, the weight creeps up and I have exercise, diet, and sometimes to no avail. Now I have a few extra jelly rolls around the curves that I work to get rid of. But I  embrace the curves as my womanly speed bumps that I choose to change because I want to. Not because I'm scared of them or what they look like. 

When it's all said and done, I wouldn't trade anything for who I am today. I love the woman that I have become inside and out. And if the truth were told, I definitely couldn't say that 100% on most days in my 20s. But now, I'm sexy AND i know it.

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