How do you help your sister with her mental illiness when you are mentally ill

4 years ago
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What do you do for a sister that is mentally ill when you are mentally ill. No one heres your crys for help. People look at you with them eyes of disgust. Not knowing  what it feels like to be us. Who do you turn to for comfort when no one understand the illness that is inside ourselves. Turned away by society to be left alone in our pain. We did not make ourselves this way we were created this way by what we were taught. Our minds are all alone wondering how to act ,where to go,what to do in our lonley lives. This is all normal  for us in our world. We recieve the peoples sighs there whispers and all we do is cry inside. It's not our fault for the people we have become. We are a family of 7 children with one commiting suicide. We have all been through the mental health system since we were children. We are all now in our 50's and still the same as we were then. You go to the doctors and they give you medication in hand to go home with, it doesn't work so you go back and they give you more medication in hand. You go home and now you are a person who can barely talk, walk, enter into society because you can baley get up. Thats suppose to help us. Then I bring my sister to the hospital because she is haveing a breakdown. Well she goes in and they will not talk with family members to get into her past nor do they talk with her doctor that has been treating her all these years. They say we are in charge now and we make our own assesment, so what happens shes out in one day. This happened one time she was in and out 7 times in one month because they feels shes fine. OK so what am I suppose to do. She tells me she is going to blow her head off and I tell them that so a man  pulls his chair up to my sister and says are you going to kill yourself or hurt anyone else she says no and he says well sign these papers so we are not responsable for you. Instead of listening to me. I have been through this with her her whole life. In and out of institutions. What is wrong with this mental health system. No one will listen and help us so we are still all alone trying to fight through our inner demons alone. This is our life on a daily basis we isolate ourselves from the world because of the looks we get, can't watch TV, can't listen to the radio, can't make friends. This is all due to the complete trama we went through as children complete brutality. So we get triggers every single day no matter what we try and do. There is no teaching nor book that can make a person understand the lonelyness and pain we deal with every single day. You start to feel after 42 years of trying to get help you loose hope. Then you are told that no medicine in this world will take away that deep pain you have inside. Don't people think we want to be normal and happy. Its a complete torment everyday of our lives. We are all very intelligent people we are all on Social Security which is nothing to be proud of. So any thoughts of where do we go from here.

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