The Abortion Issue

5 years ago

I realize this probably won't make me popular, but I'm feeling passionate so I will take the risk and let the rant out...

There have been times in our world (and there are cultures that still feel this way) that a woman belonged to her husband, was his property, and a husband could choose to do what he wished with his wife.  If that meant beating her or raping her or killing her, it was his right to do this because she belonged to him.  It was a commonly held belief in the culture that women were not the same as men, and however they justified it to themselves, they obviously saw women as being considerably less human than they were. 

I see this view as being archaic, but to the culture at the time, this was normal.  You would have been viewed as a radical if you tried to defend the rights of the women - because women didn't have rights, and wasn't it the right of the husband to do with his wives what he wished? 

When I was a teenager, my anti-abortion views were based on my religious beliefs and personal feelings.  As an unwanted child myself, I was damn glad that the argument between my parents about how to deal with me resulted in my being allowed to live.  Say what you want about whether or not I was a person 'then' or not (My mother was about 3-4 months along when she discovered she was pregnant), but I certainly am NOW!

When I became pregnant and began following my daughters development inside me, the strangest feeling was how NOT a part of me she was.  I was carrying and sustaining a life form that was COMPLETELY seperate from myself.  The intricacy of her development amazed me from a medical and scientific perspective - the things she did and when she did them.  I started feeling her movements before 20 weeks, and I was shocked to realize that she would jump at loud noises, and respond to my voice and touch.  She was a little person, in her own right, and I had nothing to do with it.

My anti-abortion views now are not tied to my religious beliefs - I honestly do not understand how anyone in the medical field, or anyone who has ever studied (in any depth) the development of a child in the womb can not believe they are a seperate entity.  I believe that to view them as 'not-yet-human' is an archaic view - like the archaic belief that women are not as human as men, and I am waiting for the day when our culture advances to the point of understanding this also.  A baby can be born at around 20 weeks gestation and survive.  This must make it undenyable that at this point, they are no longer a part of their mother's body, because they no longer need their mother's body.  Fifty years ago, this age would have been older, and fifty years from now, this age will likely be younger.  So, where do we draw the line then? Fifty years ago, were children not human until 28 weeks, while now they must be human at 21? The children haven't changed.  We have.

I want it to be very clear, despite these views - that I do not want to condemn those who have abortions.  These women will have enough struggles dealing with these memories without any condemnation.  I know there are many reasons why women seek abortions, and that I can't comprehend most of them. I also realize that despite whether abortion is 'legal' or not, women will seek abortions regardless of how easy or safe they are - even if they attempt to do it themselves.  And if the choice is between two people dying, and only one - it would be better if only one person dies, and dies as humanely as possible.

I would simply like our world to realize that although there are a lot of grey issues surrounding abortion - a fetus is a life form that is seperate from any other.  To choose abortion is to choose to end that life. 

We absolutely need to be educated so that these unwanted pregnancies do not occur, and when they do occur, that a woman can truly understand the choice she is making.  There are so many people on waiting lists for adopting babies - why is this so often not considered?

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