Women are Destroying Humanity One Insult or Injury at a Time
I have been watching Oxygen Channel's Bad Girls Season 8 and I am just disgusted by the actions of these females and others on similar shows. When did it become socially acceptable for another woman to destroy another’s belongings, spit, kick, jump, punch and verbally assault another woman? Is this a window into our future? These young women are what the youth of today is looking up to. When did it become cool to injure another person? The Bad Girls Club started in December of 2006, it went from drunk girls falling down to multiple fights on each show. That is in 6 years that this phenomenon has became socially acceptable. I am really scared for the female gender and the direction we are heading. We are oppressing our own gender and I am ashamed to be a woman in the year 2012. What will be socially acceptable 6 years from now? Where did feminism go wrong? What is this new phenomenon? Why do these women, or I am going to refer to them as girls, because of obvious lack of maturity, act this way? How do we stop this scary trend?
What is this new phenomenon? If you haven't not seen the show I suggest watching it being male or female. There are multiple fist fights per show along with girls destroying each others' belongings, verbal assaults and drinking to the point of unconsciousness. The alliances of the girls change show to show based off of arbitrary conclusions. There are even instances where multiple girls will jump one girl. This new phenomenon is being imitated by today's youth. This is where our future is heading. Women are destroying humanity one insult or injury at a time. This is not what being a female is about. Where did feminism go wrong?
Why do these girls act this way? Insecurities, mixed gender messages and social media are all reasons for this new phenomenon women look at other women and automatically compare themselves to other women. When another woman looks at another these questions invade her thoughts is she prettier, thinner, more successful, married, smarter, a good mother, the list goes on and on. When another woman feels that the woman that she is comparing herself to have one up on her she automatically raises her defenses, these defenses are created by her insecurities that she feels this person is better than her somehow. Every woman has done this, some women more than others. Being a woman in today's society is very confusing no thanks to mixed gender messages. When we are little we are told to be lady, to be feminine, get married and one day have children. In today's culture when we get a little older we are also told to be many other roles, roles that contradict the original guidelines we were given, we are told to be all. By being all I mean make the money and raise the children, clean house and climb the corporate ladder, be feminine yet stand your ground, be emotional yet logical. These mixed messages are really confusing and create insecurities. Social Media has poured salt on an open wound. Women are enjoying watching other women physically and verbally assault another woman. This makes my stomach turn we are teaching our youth the new norm is that it is okay to injure another human being and not only to do it, but do it with pride. Is this what you want your children emulating? Is this what we want for the future of our gender?
How do we stop this disgusting trend? First, I think we should start where it all begins, the family. Families should teach their daughters that it is not okay to act like this. They should explain the difficulties of being a woman and the children should be able to talk with their parents about their confusion on these mixed messages of who a woman should be. Parents should lead by example. Parents should monitor what their children are watching and if they watch a show such as the bad girls club sit down with them and show them how acting like this they only hurt themselves from what they want the outcome to be. I also think schools should implement women social studies programs to educate girls on how to react and act if certain social situations arise. Many girls just need structural guidelines and what is right and what is wrong, something that may be missing at home. I think every young woman should read Mean Girls, Meaner Women, written by Dr. Erika Holiday and Dr. Joan I. Rosenberg. The book explains why girls are acting this way and steps to heal and create closer connections with other women. At the end of the day though we are responsible for ourselves, we should lead by example. If you have an issue with someone, talk about it in a civil manner. If you feel someone is better than you somehow, instead of bashing the other person physically or verbally, help that drive you to be better in that area. If you have anger, let it out in a non physical or verbal way. Be a positive role model.
Being a woman in 2012 is hard enough you have to be many roles to many people. Instead of women spending their energy trying to oppress another woman, lets help inspire success in each other. Lets stop this ugly trend so we can be better mothers, teachers, influences, business women, friends and family. What can you do to help stop this trend?
Founder of the WISE (Women Inspiring Success by Empowerment) Women
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