Disclaimer: I'm not a lesbian and I will never be one. I've always respected the sexual orientation of others, though. In my freshperson year at Dillard University, I had to write an argumentative essay on same-sex adoption. Even though most of my classmates were against it, I was for it. I couldn't really tell you why I was for it. I just know that I thought it was wrong to deny people parenthood just because you assume their sexual orientation makes them unfit.
Oddly enough, I didn't know how to feel about same-sex marriage. I wasn't against it, but I wasn't overly for it. I kept thinking, "What's the big deal? A lot of traditional couples—for various reasons—can't have traditional marriage ceremonies. They have small non-legally binding ceremonies and are fine with them. If I were gay, that's what I'd do." That was before seeing Ellen DeGeneres and Portia de Rossi on Oprah (the videos are embedded below) and before reading a blog post that a friend posted on Facebook. To find out how my opinions of same-sex marriage have changed, please read the rest.
I am more than pro same-sex marriage. I encourage it and I hope that one day all of the same-sex couples who want to be legally married can be. Please watch the YouTube videos which are embedded below.
When people say that they are against same-sex marriage, they usually say it's because they think that marriage is something that was made for a man and woman and that same-sex marriage lessens the significance of traditional marriage. I don't see how someone else's marriage makes yours any less authentic. If someone gets a PhD in Social Networking, does that make your PhD in Philosophy any less admirable? Nope.
I'm not trying to change your mind about same-sex marriage; your beliefs are none of my business. However, I do want you to understand why same-sex couples are working so hard for same-sex marriage. They just want to have the feeling that many of us take for granted: The feeling that the person on the other side of the bed is more than a significant other. They want to have "official" relationships that are recognizable not only by friends, but by law. Isn't that what we all want?
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