Oh, What Pretty Eyes You Have: A Lesson in Self-Appreciation

6 years ago

Ginnifer Goodwin drastically changed her hair this past spring, but only after permission from the Big Love producers.  To avoid any future scenarios like this, she put a wig clause in her current and all future contracts, allowing her to style her hair any way she wants. "I find it hard to express myself," she says, "when I'm growing out a very bad character haircut." (Click here for the full article)

So this has me wondering, "What attribute expresses me the most?"  Now obviously, I can't see myself signing any contracts to not change my hair.  Let's face it, a girl who's shaved her head isn't too particular.  Fashion doesn't matter, either -- although I might consider finding a way to wear TOMS for the rest of my life.  The truth is, I can't find myself putting anything in writing that deals with my physical appearance.  I'm just a little too adventurous (or maybe I don't care enough).

My eyes are definitely my most expressive, though.  From an old boyfriend who called them aqua eyes to every other person that says, "Oh, what pretty eyes you have," trust me, that's what people notice.  Have always noticed.  Which might be why I haven't always appreciated them -- in fact, one of the things that first attracted me to my husband is that he never mentioned them.  Maybe it's true for everyone -- the thing you're complimented on the most, often annoys you the most.

But I'll never forget the day I finally embraced my eyes.  I was sitting with my cousin Megan, who just a month earlier had been diagnosed with cancer. She was waiting to have her head shaved, and I was there to go first. She nervously looked at me and said, "Everyone keeps telling me how pretty my eyes will look, and I guess they're right."

She paused, and then caught me completely off guard.

"Because mine look just like yours."

Pretty powerful, coming from a girl whose eleventh birthday was the day before.  It took her eyes to make me realize how beautiful mine were.  And remembering that moment four years ago -- and remembering that beautiful girl -- is a lovely reminder to love myself more.

Now with all the eye-color-coordinating shadows and aisles filled with mascaras, fixin' up my eyes is quite fun. And nowadays the, "Oh what pretty eyes you have," remark is often followed by, "Are those fake eyelashes?"  Which they're not, but thank you, CoverGirl.

Gennifer Goodwin says, "As long as I can wear a wig, I can be any character and in real life I can be myself."

Well, it seems I am forever working to be myself. But every now and then I look in the mirror, smile, and lovingly tell it, "Oh, what pretty eyes you have."

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