It Gets Better: How to Fight Homophobia

7 years ago

At dinner last night, TW and I were happily reading our Twitter streams and surfing our feeds when we both noticed the great news out of our former home state of Florida. The ban on gay adoptions has been ruled unconstitutional and Governor Crist says Florida will immediately stop the ban on gay adoptions.

Great news for gay families in Florida! Unfortunately the news for gays in the military isn't quite so good. The Senate was unable to break Senator McCain's filibuster against the bill that would end "Don't Ask, Don't Tell." There's still a chance that a vote could occur during the lame duck session in December, and people like this CNU student who held a flash protest aren't giving up the fight.

And there are oh so many battles to be fought.

Homophobia reared its head during Survivor 21. After Shannon Elkins' outburst, the tribe voted him off. Ah if life were that easy... to be able to vote the people who bully others right off the island.

15-year-old Billy Lucas committed suicide on September 9th after being bullied and harassed by students. Billy never came out as gay, but his classmates labeled him such. After learning about the hate messages that were left on Billy's Facebook memorial page, Dan Savage launched a new Youtube Channel called "It Gets Better" to help gay kids struggling to get through the very difficult middle and high school years. Watch Dan and Terry's video but also spend some time watching the other videos that are being submitted.

If you're gay, consider making a video of your own. Or writing a letter to a gay teen.

My dear gay teen, I’m writing you this letter because you’re the innocence I left behind. You’re the potential for the next generation that teaches us all more about tolerance, acceptance, equality, and integrity. I’m asking you to hang on, for my sake. I know that your suicide rate is much higher than a heterosexual teen; I understand why. Please stay away from that road. We need you here. We need you today, and tomorrow, and ten years from now.

Even if you aren't gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgendered, your kind words matter. You can help counteract the messages they are getting when they see the repeal of DADT languishing in the Senate and hate talk on Survivor. Kids are surfing the internet, looking for people who respect them. You can help keep kids alive.

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