Ending Violence Against Women Is About Jobs, Housing & Protecting Kids Too

7 years ago

It's a cliche but I've had a full circle moment. I've gone from a girl who saw her mom being beaten, saw her father being arrested, and who couldn't sleep with the lights off until a few years ago... to being the mother of a son who lives in a safe, healthy household with a father who protects him... to being invited to be in a room full of change agents who are working daily to end violence.

U.S. President Barack Obama makes remarks about Domestic Violence Awareness Month in the East Room of the White House in Washington on October 27, 2010. At left is Vice President Joe Biden.  UPI/Roger L. Wollenberg Photo via Newscom

Yesterday I was honored to be a part of the very hard-working crowd at the White House event commemorating Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Vice President Biden, author of the Violence Against Women Act (VAWA), and President Obama both spoke in detail about what they (and their partners) are doing to end violence against women.

The hard truth: One-in-every-four women experiences domestic violence during their lifetimes and more than 20 million women in the U.S. have been victims of rape.

What excited me about the policy news was how comprehensive the plan is to combat violence against women -- and children. From helping victims gain financial independence (jobs, housing, credit) to helping children recover from the trauma of witnessing domestic violence.

I was so proud to be able to speak personally with the Vice President and Rep. Donna Edwards (D-MD) about the importance of helping domestic violence victims get on their feet and stay safe as they try to leave their abusers. The economic strategy piece is so needed. When my mom tried to leave her situation (back in the 1970s), she walked to the bank and asked the manager for $50 loan. Thank god he said yes. But that was her only hope. We need to offer countless lifelines instead.

For example, the President noted that the Department of Housing and Urban Development released new rules today to prevent the victims of domestic violence from being evicted or denied assisted housing because a crime was committed against them. And the Vice President and the DOJ are launching a new effort to help victims of domestic abuse find lawyers to represent them pro bono.

Also a focus: Children need help recovering or they'll be crippled by the effects of domestic violence -- or worse - -- become abusers, adult victims, addicts or miss their chance to thrive. Baseball manager Joe Torre spoke at the event about growing up in an abusive household and the lifelong scars he carried as a result. That's my story. And it's the story of tens of millions of other children. I got help -- I'm still getting it -- but many don't know how. Or when they reach out, the helping hand has been cut off (funding-wise that is).

Still there is work to be done. You need to decide if you support the agenda. The Vice President spoke of how 22,000 calls a month still come into the Domestic Violence Hotline, primarily from women. And those are the ones who risk it to reach out.

The coordinated effort that is needed is being helped along by the White House Council on Girls and Women. (Thank you!)

Meanwhile, we'll be doing our part: Teaching respect for oneself and others as well as building back respect when it is lost so you can thrive.

The President also said:

"And if there's one group that I want to thank, am grateful for, it's people who are willing to tell their stories -- because it's hard."

My father, who died 10 years ago, would be proud I broke the cycle. Because he told me his truth -- he was also was a victim of abuse as a precious boy -- and he eventually experienced some healing too. Tell Your Truth is a Respect Basic. And I'm glad I have.

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