Dear Mrs. Bieber: Some Advice From One Mom To Another

4 years ago
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Justin Beiber - MTV Video Music Awards 2010

 

Dear Mrs. Bieber,

I know it is probably none of my business, but after hearing all the recent news about your son, I felt compelled to write.  As a mom myself, I imagine you are having a tough time right now. Justin seems to be spiraling out of control and it looks to me like his actions are not just "a cry for help," but a scream for some immediate attention.  I know that he is a legal adult, but I hope you agree that parenting is a job that seems to have no retirement plan.

I know you were a teen mom and that it hasn't always been easy, but as his parent, his mom, your first priority is to teach and protect him, and to step in when he is clearly crossing the line and becoming a danger to himself and others.  If you turn a blind eye to the alcohol and drug use, and make excuses for his behavior, it won't help him and it may just hurt someone else.  Whether we like it or not, as his parent, his behavior, which seems to indicate a sense of entitlement and the inability to make good decisions for his life, is a reflection on you.

So when you speak with him, you may want to tell him that cute only gets you so far and that at some point, being adorable won't excuse his bad behavior, regardless of his talent. Since a lack of self-esteem doesn't seem to plague him perhaps a quick dose of reality is in order.

It may also be a good time to remind him that without humility and gratitude, the higher the rise, the farther the fall. There are lots of talented kids out there and we are a fickle culture.

It seems he may not have not heard you when you taught him that the key to happiness is making wise decisions.  Wearing pants below his butt was really just the tip of the iceberg and was probably your cue to step in immediately.  Now, he's gone far beyond bad clothing choices and has moved on to renting a yellow Lamborghini and driving it drunk, high and on Xanax. What's next, assault? Oh yeah, already there.

And have you seen his friends lately?? You know that when you start hanging out with a not so nice crowd, you become not so nice.  He is the company he's keeping and he needs to dump his company...pronto.

I get it; parenting is hard and maybe none of this is news to you and you've got it in hand. Maybe there is much more to the picture than we know, but no matter his age, or his success, it's clear lately by his actions that he still needs his mom. If you want to keep him out of jail, alive and famous for his talent and not infamous for his behavior, it's the most important job you will ever have. Good luck.

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