Own Your Beauty: Why I Chopped My Hair

6 years ago

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I've had the short 'do for a little over a month now and I'm still getting lots of compliments, which is fun. Most important, I really love it. Everyone asks me, 'What made you do it?' and my answer's sort of long-winded but essentially it comes down to this...

I'd like to try to be the truest version of myself.

And the truth is, I'm going gray.

I've actually been going gray since I was 23. I come from a long line of gray-haired beauties. Ladies who didn't just go gray early but embraced going gray early.

My grandmother raised three gray-haired girls (and two boys).

Her youngest daughter took going gray to an entirely new level. She was in her early 20s when she started rockin' a gray streak that would have put Stacy's to shame.

She boldly went where few brides have gone before.

Her gray hair even made it onto her wedding stationary. Heck, she created a website celebrating gray girls.

So I've got this long history of gray-haired girls in my family. But a year and a half ago I couldn't take it any more. All I saw was the gray when I looked in the mirror. So I dyed it for the first time before my sister's wedding.

And I didn't feel like me. The color wasn't right. So I tried different colors. I tried boxes. I tried professionals. I didn't want a new color though. I wanted my color. I wanted to look like me.

And the truth is that I have gray hair.

Somewhere, mixed up in all these shallow hair thoughts, there was also this little girl.

I kept coming back to the fact that I'm going to try my best to raise her to love her hair. Just. The. Way. It. Is.

And I kept thinking that perhaps I should start by showing her that I love mine. Just. The. Way. It. Is.

So I'm growing out all the random colors that have accumulated over the past year and a half. And I'm going gray. For real. It's going to take a little while for everything to look 100% normal, so I figured I'd chop my hair off to give the gray a bigger head start.

And the thing is, if I'm gonna go gray, I'm kind of digging the short hair. It's super easy to style and it's makes me feel sort of care-free. The going gray part is going to mean that I can kiss boxes and/or expensive hair appointments good-bye. I won't have to watch my roots grow out. But the best part is that I'm feeling a little bit more like me every day.

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