No, we don't. I bring this up because a couple of days ago on Facebook a poster was going OFF on Natural hair bloggers, vloggers, and Youtubers for acting like they have all the answers on Natural hair. We were labeled as hypocrites, never having doubts about this Natural hair journey and we consider ourselves experts on everything about being Natural. I had to think about her statements a little deeper because I really wanted to grasp her anger for two reasons. One: Where was this coming from? Two: There were too many on the post agreeing with her and I had know why. Were some of us really being snotty, shitty or know-it-alls?
My husband and sister told me to just do it already and even explained that my hair looked nice. Despite their insistence whenever I did take a break from the braids and wigs and stepped outside of my comfort zone (my house) I made sure to cover my tresses. Was I a chicken? Sure, but I had no knowledge on how to take care of my hair and what products to use.
I had done a big chop even though it had no name back then and had ultra short hair. I found some curl hydration crap on a shelf in Target and slathered it in my hair while sporting a scarf as a headband. Then on one frightful day in October of 2008 I bore my hair and my soul to the world. Luckily, the world was inviting. I walked into work and I was showered with "ahs" and "oohs" by mostly white co-workers. Even the meanest of the meanest supervisors smiled a genuine smile and told me she loved my hair. It was the reaction I so needed.
I needed the love, the like, the acceptance. I was unsure, insecure, and afraid. Yes, seasoned Naturals had or HAVE doubts, fears, and failures but those failures have led us to successes and valuable knowledge on what to do and how to do it. Do we know everything there is to know about Natural hair? Hell no, but we have been where you are right now and have learned how to overcome the obstacles that some may be facing. It was HARD to be Natural when there weren't many around to gain support, knowledge and acceptance. So yes, that does make us a little rough around the edges but the love is still there.
I'm not making excuses for the rudeness, the shortness or the nastiness that some receive from seasoned Naturals. I'm giving my take on what it was like for me and why some may be unwilling to share that dark past. There may be a lasting hurt and insecurity back there when being Natural wasn't so accepted. It may be hard for some to admit they were afraid or worried about how they looked or even that they felt alone. It's not always easy to look into your soul and admit you were unsure about this Natural path we feel so strongly about now.
So, what is my point? My point is many of us have been where you are today and if some are ugly about it then just brush it off and take it in stride. We aren't ALL like that and I guarantee you will find many to help you and understand your plight. I envy your chance to go Natural when there are tons of products, advice and support to guide you. Am I bitter? Not at all because I am the confident Natural I am today because I was the clueless Natural eight years ago. My past is my past and it makes me stronger everyday. So the best advice I can give to those feeling anger from some seasoned naturals:
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