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Kids outside of the box are our teachers

A family plan to
treat ADHD
Susan Hyatt

My six year old son was on the verge of expulsion, and the diagnosis of Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) burned on his shirt like the Scarlet Letter. Desperate to save his short academic career, self-esteem and my sanity, we engaged in a remarkable journey that has made our family grateful for a label that, at first, seemed like a death sentence.


Frustrated Boy at School
Ryan's school career did not exactly start off on the right foot. In fact, most days started with him using his right foot to kick other students, the teacher and even a very authoritative nun.  While clearly bright and capable, Ryan was frequently bored, and decided that sitting at his desk was less fun than say, total anarchy.  

Things escalated from bad to worse.  Most school days, I would pray for a "good report."  When I would pick the kids up from school, I would hold my breath and try to calm the deafening pounding in my chest. Usually, Ryan emerged from school like a prisoner of war, defeated, unhappy and hopeless, clutching the tell-tale pink detention slip in his little hand.  

Days like these were common for us in kindergarten and first grade.  As I look back, it was a dysfunctional parade of desperate threats, broken school handbook rules, harsh restrictions and low self-esteem.  And that, friends, was during a good week.

Working to help Ryan and his school get on the right track felt like Space Mountain roller coaster ride at Disney World, the one that you ride in the dark. There were so many twists, turns and dreaded drops, plus a bonus of unexpected series of dips and jerks (pun intended). 

Misinformation about ADHD can make matters worse

If this sounds familiar to you, you've probably been to visit with your child's teacher and school principal for something other than coffee. And, "good days" and "bad days" might revolve around sticker charts, gold stars and daily teacher reports.  There's much information and misinformation about ADHD that can be scary, confusing, and damaging.  The good news is that parents and educators can lift the veil of shame surrounding a condition, that once treated as a gift and not the plague, can heal the child's self-esteem and create a positive learning environment.

Whether you are new to discovering that your child has ADHD, or you are a parent who has been through the battery of psychological evaluations and child psychiatrists, your family might have questions and be at odds over what to do and how to do it.  I'd like to save you some of the tears I've shed, thousands of dollars and hundreds of hours that I've spent learning and navigating treatment for ADHD.

Find out how you can take back your power and reclaim authority over your child's education and medical treatment >

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Susan HyattSusan Hyatt, owner of Ideal Life Design, is certified in an elite coaching style, developed by Dr. Martha Beck, life coach to the Oprah Show and O Magazine. Through innovative coaching techniques, clients are able to identify goals, remove obstacles, and design their ideal lives. Hyatt was hand selected by Dr. Martha Beck, to teach with her this May in Scottsdale, Arizona. In addition, Hyatt is only one of 14 coaches in the United States selected to participate in a master level coach training program with Beck. Susan is a published writer, and pens a life balance column in the Evansville Courier and Press, and eWoman Magazine. She is also a Tuesday morning show regular on Fox 7 as the resident life coach.

 

 




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By Sandra A Mahyles May 30, 2008 at 12:22 AM
I too had a child with ADHD however he is 31 now and at that time they used detension only. I even heard from 3 teachers how he passed gas. The punishment for that was to have all the kids call him stinky. I blew up and asked them how they were raised. I told them I was taught to pretend I didn't notice so as not to embarse the person. I also informed them that his passing gas was a sign of sever stress and what they were doing to him emotional was cruel.Wish I could have had this article then I think life would have been much easier for him then and now. Thank You for all those who you will help.
By Jill Hall Apr 28, 2008 at 12:57 PM
Great article! Very informative. This article is well written by someone with a tremendous degree of first hand experience with ADHD.
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